Hey people of the internet. I realize that I’ve been posting less frequently, which seems surprising given all the wonderful politics related things I could post on, but college is keeping me very, very busy. So, I’m going to give a little rundown on any thoughts I’ve had related to anything recently. I apologize in advance for the lack of concrete topic in this post.
- Just for your own knowledge, if you want me to consider you a friend/straight ally, here’s a tip: Don’t act like you know more about my situation than I do. Because you don’t. You don’t know my family, you don’t know my past and you most certainly don’t know how difficult certain things can be. You do not get to talk over me. You do not get to dismiss my fears and concerns with me “being difficult” or “thinking too much.” As a friend and ally, your job is simple. You shut up and you listen and if I ask for your opinion, you give it. If I explain why what you just said/did was wrong and/or offensive, you accept that and move on. End of story.
- *trigger warning – rape* When will white, republican men shut the fuck up about rape? I mean, it’s getting pretty fucking ridiculous. We’ve got Todd “legitimate rape” Akin, we’ve got VP candidate Paul Ryan (who sponsored a personhood bill in congress using the words “forcible rape”), Richard Mourdock who said “Even when life begins in that horrible situation of rape, that is something God intended to happen,” and then we’ve got Roger Rivard. Just as a warning, his quote’s a doozy. He said “Some girls rape easy.” To give more context he was saying that some girls may agree to sex at one point but then claim the sex was rape once they become pregnant. And so, ladies and gentleman, I present to you these real class act guys. They’re not the only ones, not by a long shot. And they are the ones representing you in our government. Want to know what’s wrong with America? Why our culture is so focused on victim blaming and shaming? Look no further than the men mentioned here.
- This Website Just…go.
- Ellen, I love you, I really do. Because as I’m sure everyone knows, us females have really been struggling with our pens in recent years.
- Another “straight ally” related post. This story makes me sick. Because this man spent a year pretending to be. All, of course, in the guise of wanting to understand us better. He was a homophobic christian who saw the light and as opposed to, oh I don’t know, ASKING A GAY PERSON A FUCKING QUESTION OR TWO, he decided he would spend a year pretending to be gay. He came out (but told his aunt and two friends his plan. You know, for support and stuff.) One of his friends pretended to be his boyfriend because, as another article put it: “I needed protection to keep me balanced and teach me the nuances of gay culture and how they flirt, and to give me an excuse when guys hit on me,” said Kurek. For credibility, Kurek learned to hold hands and embrace.” He needed protection. That wording alone is enough to send me into a rage. What bothers me more is, if you read the second article, is that he needed his aunt to know the truth for support. To make sure his mother wasn’t “going off the deep end.” Isn’t it great that all gay people have someone like that…oh wait. We don’t. What bothers me most about Kurek is that he thinks this year taught him so much. But it didn’t. Because he knew that, should his family reject him completely, they weren’t really rejecting him. Just what he was pretending to be. If life ever became too difficult for him, he could tell everyone the truth. He didn’t experience what it was really like to be gay. To truly feel the fear of having yourself rejected by your loved ones, the anguish of the hate we are subject to, the pain of the words from hateful people and groups that seem to be designed to make us feel worthless. I leave this piece with a quote from Bruce Bawer, “Straight Americans need… an education of the heart and soul. They must understand – to begin with – how it can feel to spend years denying your own deepest truths, to sit silently through classes, meals, and church services while people you love toss off remarks that brutalize your soul.”
- Last, I’d just like to talk a little about the election. More specifically, people voting for Mitt Romney. I don’t know many people voting for him, but I do know some people. A few, whom know nothing about my being a lesbian. But some people, people who are my friends, who know about me and what I’ve gone through, are voting for him too. And honestly…that confuses me. So much. Because they give reasons like “well, there’s other things more important right now,” or “I’m more worried about taxes and the economy. Sorry.” No. No, they are not sorry. Because what they just said to me is “Yeah, you having equal rights is important and all, but I’d rather have taxes that are lower. You’re important, but you’re not important enough.” People can use the “I’m more worried about the economy and I support his economic policy,” excuse all they want. But I will never see that excuse as legitimate. Because I will never see business regulation (or deregulation as the case with Romney would be) and lower taxes for the wealthy as more important issues than my rights. I will never see why Wall Street is more important than assuring that all Americans have a right to marry who they love. I will never see more defense spending as of greater need than protecting me from hate crimes, workplace discrimination, and discrimination of any kind. One day, I may want to get married and have kids and be out in my community and my workplace. And I will never see those things, those things that pretty much every straight American takes for granted and considers a “given”, as less important than anything. They affect my life every single day. I can understand disagreeing with someone on economic policy. I have no problem with people who prefer Romney’s economic policy (well, I think they’re very, very wrong. But I get it.). But I do have a problem with people who put businesses and taxes over the rights and safety of human beings. In a way, I think I have more problem with my friends who say they support me but then vote for Romney than I do with other Romney voters. At least when a person who doesn’t support my rights votes for Romney, I’m not surprised. Because they don’t believe I’m denied anything. They’re wrong and hateful, but they’re not telling me the economy is more important than my life.